By Valerie Cade CSP | October 12, 2011
Are you ready to let go? Another question: Are you ready to move onto something better with regard to dealing with your workplace bullying? In my book Bully Free At Work , I highlight a step-by-step plan on ‘moving through’ in Chapter 8: Handling The Bully.
There still might be some ways that you are resisting the change you so deserve. Take note to a better, more hopeful, future.
“There is nothing (really) wrong.”
“I really can’t change this situation.” (Not true – we can always do something)
“It will be okay – the bully was nice to me today. I think they’re coming around.” (Refer to ‘The Bullying Cycle’ in Chapter 7).
“What good will it do to change?”
“It (i.e. the bullying) will go away.”
“I don’t want to talk about it.”
“They’ll reject me.” (Aren’t they doing that anyway?)
“I might get hurt.” (Aren’t you already hurt?)
“I may have to change i.e. my job, my behavior, etc.” (Is what you have right now worth holding on to?)
“It’s hard.” (Yes, it is; but so is a slow death of not doing anything).
Steps to Take for Moving Through
Come to terms with your resistance (if you have any).
Make a list of what you would like to do instead.
Know that nothing is bad forever.
Know that bullies bully because they can. You must change your boundary to let them know this is not acceptable.
In case you are doubting if this is worth the time and effort to address (a resistance tactic), remember: there is never an excuse for rude behavior. It is unacceptable. Period.
Valerie Cade, CSP is a Workplace Bullying Expert, Speaker and Author of “Bully Free at Work: What You Can Do To Stop Workplace Bullying Now!” which has been distributed in over 100 countries worldwide. For presentations and consulting on workplace bullying prevention and respectful workplace implementation, go to http://www.bullyfreeatwork.com
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